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Kirby Ryan Gram

November 19, 1968 — October 31, 2023


Kirby Ryan Gram, a charismatic and beloved soul, has passed away peacefully after a short battle with ALS at the age of 54. He was born on November 19, 1968, in Springfield, Illinois, and passed away on October 31, 2023, in Blue Springs, Missouri. Kirby was known for his larger-than-life personality and his ability to bring joy and laughter to every gathering. With a heart full of compassion and a willingness to lend a helping hand, he touched the lives of countless individuals.

He served in the U.S. Army from 1986 to 1989 as a helicopter mechanic and was stationed in Korea. His commitment to duty and service exemplified his selflessness and desire to make a positive difference in the world.

Kirby's career was defined by his expertise in salesmanship (he could sell ice to an Eskimo) and HVAC installation. His skills were highly sought after by both residential and commercial businesses. With his master mechanical certification and unwavering dedication to excellence, he thrived in his role at Trane manufacturing company.

Aside from his professional accomplishments, Kirby was also deeply committed to giving back to the community. He supported several charities, including GOAR, Rebels & Misfits, MooseRiders and Bikers4Bikers. Through his involvement with these organizations, he made a significant impact on the lives of those in need.

Kirby's love for adventure led him down many exciting paths throughout his life. As a child, he found joy in BMX racing, Cub Scouts, and Little League baseball. These early passions laid the foundation for a lifetime of embracing new experiences. In adulthood, Kirby indulged his wanderlust by traveling far and wide. He loved to explore new landscapes with his wife and friends on exhilarating motorcycle rides.

One of Kirby's greatest joys was connecting with people from all walks of life. He possessed an extraordinary ability to make everyone around him feel welcomed and valued. With a vibrant spirit he had a magnetism that attracted strangers-turned-friends wherever he went. Kirby was the life of every party, filling the room with infectious laughter and unforgettable stories. Kirby had a knack for lifting the spirits of those around him, effortlessly bringing smiles to their faces and always had a good joke to share. He was also known for his exceptional handyman skills, always ready to lend his expertise to fix anything that needed repair.

The cherished memories of Kirby will forever be etched in the hearts of his loved ones. Although he may no longer be physically with us, Kirby's spirit will continue to live on through the countless lives he touched.

He is survived by his wife, Tonja Gram; mother, Carol Edwards (Alvin); son, Devin Gram; daughters, Madison Frisbey (Preston) and Sierra Vincent; grandson, Maverick Frisbey; sister, Deborah Harlow Liles (Mike); brother, Mark Gram and several nieces and nephews.

Kirby is preceded in death by his father, Kirby E. Gram; and brothers, Robert Harlow and Robert Starr.

A visitation will be held from 5-8pm on Thursday, November 2nd at Speaks Suburban Chapel in Independence, Mo. Funeral service will be at 10am on Friday, November 3rd at Heart of God Fellowship in Buckner, Mo. with burial to immediately follow at the Missouri State Veterans cemetery in Higginsville, Mo. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Kansas City ALS Association or to the Heart of God Fellowship Church.

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Thursday, November 2, 2023

5:00 - 8:00 pm (Central time)

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Friday, November 3, 2023

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Friday, November 3, 2023

12:00 - 1:00 pm (Central time)

Missouri State Veterans Cemetery

20109 MO-13 BUS, Higginsville, MO 64037

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